Tag: Marriage

Failure Doesn’t Get the Last Word

The most abysmal failure of my life was the time I planted and pastored a church and after four years of loving, nurturing and pouring my whole self into it, it died. I’ve succeeded at so many things, but this thing I could not do. In 2015, just one year into the church plant, my marriage weathered its toughest storm. That crisis tormented my … Read More Failure Doesn’t Get the Last Word

Eve: The Mighty Strong Power

The Bible is an ancient collection of sacred scriptures. It was written in another culture, at another time, to a different audience and by men who spoke another language. Most people tend to forget this when they “read the Bible for all it’s worth.” They sit, they read, they elucidate and then apply a biblical solution to a 21st century issue based on their … Read More Eve: The Mighty Strong Power

The Other “F” Word

Feminism has become the other “F” word. Speak it in any friend circle and you’re likely to provoke a myriad of emotions and strong responses. You either embrace the movement or you hate it; there doesn’t seem to be much middle ground here. A colleague recently shared with me the sordid details from her book club’s current selection. Just one chapter in and she … Read More The Other “F” Word

Twelve Steps to Facilitate Affair Recovery

You’ve decided to salvage your marriage after an affair. It’s not going to be easy to sift through the wreckage and there will be no quick fixes. Re-establishing trust after a monumental transgression is grueling, but with grit and determination you can rebuild. The saying, “What you have done, you will do again,” in the context of infidelity means: once a cheater always a … Read More Twelve Steps to Facilitate Affair Recovery

Five Ways to Increase Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

What does it mean to be intimate with your mate? I’m not talking about the physical expression of your relationship; I’m talking about knowing one another on a profound emotional and spiritual level. You might have a decent marriage even if you don’t have much intimacy, but I have come to realize that we will never truly be fulfilled in life until we have … Read More Five Ways to Increase Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

Five Ways to Reignite the Romance in Your Marriage

Feel more like roommates than lovers? No longer connecting emotionally? Attraction waning for each other? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions or if you just want to increase the passion in an otherwise good relationship, read on. I get it…you work a stressful eight-hour shift, hustle out the door just to taxi the kids to their evening activities during rush hour … Read More Five Ways to Reignite the Romance in Your Marriage

Three Ways to Love Successfully

Secular advice on love and success focuses on ways to maintain another person’s sexual interest or directives on getting your emotional needs met. In the end, this cheap brand of love is shallow and doesn’t lead to long term success. Genuine love is sacrificial and pure, it doesn’t demand its own way or take advantage of others. If you are interested in a love … Read More Three Ways to Love Successfully

Three Fundamentals Boundaries in Marriage

As a counselor, I meet with a lot of couples who are in relationship trouble. Ten minutes into the first session and it’s not too difficult to figure out how they wound up in my office. As personal stories unfurl about adultery, communication breakdowns, reconnecting with old flames, flirting with strangers, and verbal and physical abuse, I am amazed the marriages have lasted to this point. Each of these couples share a common link: they lack … Read More Three Fundamentals Boundaries in Marriage