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A Week of Clarity & Mutuality: Boundaries in Marriage

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I am so stinking excited to introduce you to my guest writer today! I know you will enjoy reading her article, she has a lot of wisdom to share. Sarah Coates is the founder & owner of One-Eighty Counseling P.A. She started the group in 2007 and has facilitated the company’s growth to become one of the largest Mental Health & Substance Abuse private … Read More A Week of Clarity & Mutuality: Boundaries in Marriage

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Common Misunderstandings About Egalitarianism

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“I believe Scripture when properly interpreted along with tradition, reason, and experience all support a posture of equality toward women rather than hierarchy,” (RHE) in the home, church, and world. The more I research and study equality between the genders, the more obvious it is to me that wrong assumptions and misunderstandings about mutuality flourish. Since I hate wrong assumptions and misunderstandings, I would … Read More Common Misunderstandings About Egalitarianism

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A Week of Clarity and Mutuality: Definition of Terms

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“Women can’t be pastors, it’s not biblical.” This statement and similar ones were drilled into my daughter Teagan’s head on a near-daily basis at her fundamental Christian school. At the time of her enrollment years earlier, I inquired about the school’s doctrine and was given a copy of their “manifesto,” a nonpartisan list of “we believe” statements that most Christians would agree are central … Read More A Week of Clarity and Mutuality: Definition of Terms

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A Week of Clarity and Mutuality

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When I drop the term egalitarian among my friend circles, I’m typically met with a glazed stare, the one that lets me know I’ve lost my audience. I get it, it’s not a common word and it’s not used much outside of theological colloquy. For a while now, I’ve incorporated the concept of egalitarian theology in my writing and speaking, although I don’t always … Read More A Week of Clarity and Mutuality

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Failure Doesn’t Get the Last Word

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The most abysmal failure of my life was the time I planted and pastored a church and after four years of loving, nurturing and pouring my whole self into it, it died. I’ve succeeded at so many things, but this thing I could not do. In 2015, just one year into the church plant, my marriage weathered its toughest storm. That crisis tormented my … Read More Failure Doesn’t Get the Last Word

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Three Questions Asked of Every Leader

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One of my first jobs out of graduate school was at a psychiatric facility. I worked in the admissions department taking crisis calls and admitting new patients into the hospital. My immediate supervisor was good enough, but her boss? Well she was another story! I will refer to her as “Angie.” Angie was insecure and lacked basic people skills for the position. She yelled … Read More Three Questions Asked of Every Leader

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2019: The Year of Consistency

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Every January I make the same promise to myself: publish more articles for my blog site. As fate would have it, life steps in the way and writing is relegated to the back burner. Recently, I’ve been reflecting on why I have a blog site in the first place. It’s not like I have a ton of followers waiting with bated breath for my … Read More 2019: The Year of Consistency

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The Other “F” Word

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Feminism has become the other “F” word. Speak it in any friend circle and you’re likely to provoke a myriad of emotions and strong responses. You either embrace the movement or you hate it; there doesn’t seem to be much middle ground here. A colleague recently shared with me the sordid details from her book club’s current selection. Just one chapter in and she … Read More The Other “F” Word

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Twelve Steps to Facilitate Affair Recovery

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You’ve decided to salvage your marriage after an affair. It’s not going to be easy to sift through the wreckage and there will be no quick fixes. Re-establishing trust after a monumental transgression is grueling, but with grit and determination you can rebuild. The saying, “What you have done, you will do again,” in the context of infidelity means: once a cheater always a … Read More Twelve Steps to Facilitate Affair Recovery

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Six Things to Let Go of Post Affair

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Learning you have been betrayed by the very person who vowed to love, honor and cherish you until parted by death is devastating. Most betrayed partners remember with vivid clarity, every detail of the day they discovered the affair. Not one moment passes by where there is not an acute awareness of their spouse’s decision to stray from the marriage covenant. The knowledge of … Read More Six Things to Let Go of Post Affair

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In Praise of Female Pastors Part IV: The Interpretation

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The church has used Paul’s words in the following passages to silence women for centuries: Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church … Read More In Praise of Female Pastors Part IV: The Interpretation

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In Praise of Female Pastors Part III: The Debate

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  In the West, two polarized groups are used for defining the standard roles of women in the context of the home and church: complementarians and egalitarians. For clarity’s sake, complementarians believe that God established a biblical hierarchy by placing men in authority over women and that he calls women to submit to male leadership. Within this view, only men are to assume leadership … Read More In Praise of Female Pastors Part III: The Debate

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