Category: Marriage

The Other “F” Word

Feminism has become the other “F” word. Speak it in any friend circle and you’re likely to provoke a myriad of emotions and strong responses. You either embrace the movement or you hate it; there doesn’t seem to be much middle ground here. A colleague recently shared with me the sordid details from her book club’s current selection. Just one chapter in and she … Read More The Other “F” Word

Twelve Steps to Facilitate Affair Recovery

You’ve decided to salvage your marriage after an affair. It’s not going to be easy to sift through the wreckage and there will be no quick fixes. Re-establishing trust after a monumental transgression is grueling, but with grit and determination you can rebuild. The saying, “What you have done, you will do again,” in the context of infidelity means: once a cheater always a … Read More Twelve Steps to Facilitate Affair Recovery

Six Things to Let Go of Post Affair

Learning you have been betrayed by the very person who vowed to love, honor and cherish you until parted by death is devastating. Most betrayed partners remember with vivid clarity, every detail of the day they discovered the affair. Not one moment passes by where there is not an acute awareness of their spouse’s decision to stray from the marriage covenant. The knowledge of … Read More Six Things to Let Go of Post Affair

10 Signs Your Spouse Might be Cheating

Current infidelity statistics reveal that in over one-third of marriages, one or both partners admitted to an extramarital affair. This number might actually be low because affairs are under reported. Other research estimates indicate that nearly 60% of all individuals will engage in an affair at some point during the marriage. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I do a lot of affair recovery work. … Read More 10 Signs Your Spouse Might be Cheating

Five Ways to Increase Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

What does it mean to be intimate with your mate? I’m not talking about the physical expression of your relationship; I’m talking about knowing one another on a profound emotional and spiritual level. You might have a decent marriage even if you don’t have much intimacy, but I have come to realize that we will never truly be fulfilled in life until we have … Read More Five Ways to Increase Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

Five Ways to Reignite the Romance in Your Marriage

Feel more like roommates than lovers? No longer connecting emotionally? Attraction waning for each other? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions or if you just want to increase the passion in an otherwise good relationship, read on. I get it…you work a stressful eight-hour shift, hustle out the door just to taxi the kids to their evening activities during rush hour … Read More Five Ways to Reignite the Romance in Your Marriage

Three Ways to Love Successfully

Secular advice on love and success focuses on ways to maintain another person’s sexual interest or directives on getting your emotional needs met. In the end, this cheap brand of love is shallow and doesn’t lead to long term success. Genuine love is sacrificial and pure, it doesn’t demand its own way or take advantage of others. If you are interested in a love … Read More Three Ways to Love Successfully

Three Fundamentals Boundaries in Marriage

As a counselor, I meet with a lot of couples who are in relationship trouble. Ten minutes into the first session and it’s not too difficult to figure out how they wound up in my office. As personal stories unfurl about adultery, communication breakdowns, reconnecting with old flames, flirting with strangers, and verbal and physical abuse, I am amazed the marriages have lasted to this point. Each of these couples share a common link: they lack … Read More Three Fundamentals Boundaries in Marriage