Category: Marriage

A Week of Clarity & Mutuality: Boundaries in Marriage

I am so stinking excited to introduce you to my guest writer today! I know you will enjoy reading her article, she has a lot of wisdom to share. Sarah Coates is the founder & owner of One-Eighty Counseling P.A. She started the group in 2007 and has facilitated the company’s growth to become one of the largest Mental Health & Substance Abuse private … Read More A Week of Clarity & Mutuality: Boundaries in Marriage

Common Misunderstandings About Egalitarianism

“I believe Scripture when properly interpreted along with tradition, reason, and experience all support a posture of equality toward women rather than hierarchy,” (RHE) in the home, church, and world. The more I research and study equality between the genders, the more obvious it is to me that wrong assumptions and misunderstandings about mutuality flourish. Since I hate wrong assumptions and misunderstandings, I would … Read More Common Misunderstandings About Egalitarianism

A Week of Clarity and Mutuality: Definition of Terms

“Women can’t be pastors, it’s not biblical.” This statement and similar ones were drilled into my daughter Teagan’s head on a near-daily basis at her fundamental Christian school. At the time of her enrollment years earlier, I inquired about the school’s doctrine and was given a copy of their “manifesto,” a nonpartisan list of “we believe” statements that most Christians would agree are central … Read More A Week of Clarity and Mutuality: Definition of Terms

A Week of Clarity and Mutuality

When I drop the term egalitarian among my friend circles, I’m typically met with a glazed stare, the one that lets me know I’ve lost my audience. I get it, it’s not a common word and it’s not used much outside of theological colloquy. For a while now, I’ve incorporated the concept of egalitarian theology in my writing and speaking, although I don’t always … Read More A Week of Clarity and Mutuality

Failure Doesn’t Get the Last Word

The most abysmal failure of my life was the time I planted and pastored a church and after four years of loving, nurturing and pouring my whole self into it, it died. I’ve succeeded at so many things, but this thing I could not do. In 2015, just one year into the church plant, my marriage weathered its toughest storm. That crisis tormented my … Read More Failure Doesn’t Get the Last Word

Eve: The Mighty Strong Power

The Bible is an ancient collection of sacred scriptures. It was written in another culture, at another time, to a different audience and by men who spoke another language. Most people tend to forget this when they “read the Bible for all it’s worth.” They sit, they read, they elucidate and then apply a biblical solution to a 21st century issue based on their … Read More Eve: The Mighty Strong Power

The Other “F” Word

Feminism has become the other “F” word. Speak it in any friend circle and you’re likely to provoke a myriad of emotions and strong responses. You either embrace the movement or you hate it; there doesn’t seem to be much middle ground here. A colleague recently shared with me the sordid details from her book club’s current selection. Just one chapter in and she … Read More The Other “F” Word

Twelve Steps to Facilitate Affair Recovery

You’ve decided to salvage your marriage after an affair. It’s not going to be easy to sift through the wreckage and there will be no quick fixes. Re-establishing trust after a monumental transgression is grueling, but with grit and determination you can rebuild. The saying, “What you have done, you will do again,” in the context of infidelity means: once a cheater always a … Read More Twelve Steps to Facilitate Affair Recovery

Six Things to Let Go of Post Affair

Learning you have been betrayed by the very person who vowed to love, honor and cherish you until parted by death is devastating. Most betrayed partners remember with vivid clarity, every detail of the day they discovered the affair. Not one moment passes by where there is not an acute awareness of their spouse’s decision to stray from the marriage covenant. The knowledge of … Read More Six Things to Let Go of Post Affair

10 Signs Your Spouse Might be Cheating

Current infidelity statistics reveal that in over one-third of marriages, one or both partners admitted to an extramarital affair. This number might actually be low because affairs are under reported. Other research estimates indicate that nearly 60% of all individuals will engage in an affair at some point during the marriage. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I do a lot of affair recovery work. … Read More 10 Signs Your Spouse Might be Cheating

Five Ways to Increase Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

What does it mean to be intimate with your mate? I’m not talking about the physical expression of your relationship; I’m talking about knowing one another on a profound emotional and spiritual level. You might have a decent marriage even if you don’t have much intimacy, but I have come to realize that we will never truly be fulfilled in life until we have … Read More Five Ways to Increase Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage

Five Ways to Reignite the Romance in Your Marriage

Feel more like roommates than lovers? No longer connecting emotionally? Attraction waning for each other? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions or if you just want to increase the passion in an otherwise good relationship, read on. I get it…you work a stressful eight-hour shift, hustle out the door just to taxi the kids to their evening activities during rush hour … Read More Five Ways to Reignite the Romance in Your Marriage